Updated: Jan 4
What, Exactly, Are Affirmations?
Affirmations are simply statements that are designed to create self-change within yourself. They can help boost your inspiration, as well as simple daily reminder. They can also help you focus your attention on goals throughout the day,to bring on positive and sustained self-change.
The formula for writing effective affirmations is actually quite simple.
1. Effective Affirmations Are Written in First Person.
Begin your affirmations with the “I” or “I am....” These types of statements turn affirmations into statements of identity. Identity statements are powerful motivators for self-change. Examples of I statements would be, “I am secure and confident speaking in public,” “I enjoy eating healthy food,” “I love to exercise,” and “I am a loving and compassionate person.”
2. Affirmations Are Written in the Positive (as Opposed to the Negative).
Always state your affirmations in the positive. For example, instead of saying, “I no longer enjoy the taste of cigarettes,” you might say, “I am completely free from cigarettes,” or “I am a healthy person and I love the way my body feels when I make healthy choices.”
3. Affirmations Have an Emotional Charge.
Imbue your affirmations with feeling. Using emotional words in affirmations is important, because of the deep association we have between emotion words and somatic experiences. So instead of saying, “I spend time with my aging parents,” try saying, “I feel such love and gratitude spending time with my mother and father.” Or instead of “I only eat healthy food,” which sounds suspiciously chore-like, try, “I feel vibrant and alive when I make healthy choices for me.”
4. Affirmations Are Written in the Present State.
Write your affirmations as if they are already happening. This means affirming, “I am happy and confident,” instead of “Two months from now, I will be happy and confident.” Or, “I am sexy and attractive,” as opposed to, “When I lose these last ten pounds, I will be sexy and attractive.”
Now if you don’t believe it yet WRITE IT ANYWAYS, feed your conscious till you start to feel your confidence shift.. The purpose behind affirmations is to rewire your subconscious mind. Just as must as you can self doubt and down talk yourself to the point you start feeling down and depressed. Imagine writing and speaking positively the same way.
Many holistic traditions suggest that if you act as if something is true, if you experience the feelings associated with the outcome that you want, the more likely it is for the outcome to materialize. That is, if you believe that you are attractive and sexy, you will automatically engage in the behaviors associated with that (heightened self-care), which will help you to attain your goals.